How come women need to give birth in order to be mothers?
What about the children without mommies?
Parents like to be their own children "selfless" parents. Not sure how motherhood and fatherhood are selfless.
I think there should be a holiday for adoptive parents whom can have children, but chose to be parents to children without parents. Oh but wait, adoption is prohibited in Syria, so decided our most wise moral Muslim Sheikhs. But hey, that means I need to be thankful that I have another citizenship; I still can adopt a Syrian orphan child because of a non-Syrian citizenship, to give the lone child a real home, give her real education, and perhaps give her other alternatives and chances to becoming a better Syrian. Wonder why we always need foreign papers in order to build our most beloved Syria.
Friday, January 18, 2008
If Motherhood is Selfless
Posted by Golaniya at 11:16
Labels: Forgotten Arab People, I Love Children, Reconstructing Syria, Religion, Syria
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I agree
http://myfog-dania.blogspot.com/2007/12/stop-making-children-idiots-this-is.html
so much for secular community...
ours is all about hypocrite, I cant understand how Syria is called secular and at the same time, the civil law is taken from Shari'a!
Who said adoption is not allowed anywhere?!
Islam (and quran in particular) encourages people to take care of orphans and parent them. The only thing that is NOT allowed is calling them your own, or claiming biological parenthood!
Ba3dain, since when is syria considered an Islamic country? What happened to all the socialist ideas, and nationalistic Baath and 7asheehs? All gone with the wind?
If you check, you'll discover that you can adopt, anywhere in the world. Including Islamic countries.
Qwaidair, it's not a matter of claiming biological parenthood. But that adopted child, if a boy when he grows up. He cannot be treated as a son, meaning, the mother has to cover up her hair in his presence and such. In addition, he doesn't inherit anything. Same if the adopted child was a girl, she doesn't inherit and she has to cover up her hair in the presence of her father when she reaches adolescence. Islam do teach Moslems to help orphans...but as orphans...not as a legitimate and recognized family members.
That's the difference...
لا أفهم لماذا الهجوم على الشيوخ المسلمين فالأمر ليس بيدهم. الكلام هو من عند الله و هي أمور دولية في عدلها و حكمتها. ان كان النقض ضد الاسلام فوضع اليتيم خاصة له أهمية ليس فقط لأن الرسول (ص) كان يتيما و لكن أيضا لما مكتوب في القرآن عنهم و وضعهم و معاملتهم. و منها
(يسألونك ماذا ينفقون قل ما أنفقتم من خير فللوالدين و الأقربين و اليتامى و المساكين و ابن السبيل ... )
سبب منع التبني ليس لظلم الناس و له سبب واضح و أساسي. الصبي لا يجوز أن يكون في بيت لوحده مع امرأة غير محرمة و لسيت زوجته أو الفتاة مع رجل غير محرم و ليس زوجها. طبعا كونك لست مسلمة أوافققي أن الأمر ممكن أن يبدو غريب من أول وهلة و لكن يجب أن تذكري أن رقة القلب و حسن النية من غير معرفة ممكن أن تكون ضارّة و تأتي بأذى كبير والله أعلم.
أليس من الأفضل حملة للتوعية عن وضع اليتامة و كيفية المساعدة قد تساعد كل اليتامى و ليس فقط القليلون الذي يمكن أن يتبناهم أحد. مع العلم أن سورية دولة ذو أكثرية مسلمة و لن يتبنو الأطفال في حال نجاح ما تبغين من غاية؟ فما حجم الضرر في هذه الحالة مع كل النية الصافية؟ و ما أكثر المسلمين الذين قد يساعدوكي ان كنت فعلا تهتمين في حال يتامى البلد و عزمتي على الخيار الأول؟
أتمنى لكي التوفيق في رحلتكي الى أمريكا و النجاح في دراستكي
How people will deal with someone they have raised is thier business. How they cover and not cover and infront of which people! Maybe they shouldn't but that's not a major issue
As for inheritance, he can still inherit through the will. So what's missing?
1) you can take custody of the child
2) You can have a will to allow him to inherit
3) He has the right to have a good life, but also has the right to know his real parents, and his real name.
Covering up may seen a minor issue...but say that the mother is a practising moslem...She should be alone with him in the family house...still...people could get over that...
You cannot will all of your properties, legally in Syria, there is just a small percentage of your property that you can will and the rest MOST be inherited by a blood relative. Which is not the case with biological children, as if someone has an only child (boy), that child along with his mom, inherit everything.
The point about knowing his real parents, I don't see where the issue is
typos:
seen=seem
should be= should not be
and living beside gaza is living in terror..
dear golaniya! a great blog, so much to read and so much to see, and loads of links! too bad i found your blog at the very end of my surf-nightshift!! i will sure be following you postings!
salamat!
abu hazem
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